Friday, September 16, 2011

Love Stories: Love Heals

In January of 2010, I reconnected on Facebook with my very first boyfriend, James (Jimmy, as I used to call him).  We were high school sweethearts who spent 3 years together, on and off, broke up in 1988, and hadn’t been in contact since.

For months, we exchanged emails sharing what we’d each been up to for the past two-plus decades.  I hadn't been feeling well, and as I became progressively more sick, he and I became closer and closer. We chatted online, staying up way too late many nights because neither of us wanted to sign off and say good-bye.  I had recently gone through a bad break up and James was very supportive and non-judgmental, even when I made ridiculous statements such as, "I will never love again."

Despite professing to the contrary, I made a list of all the qualities a potential future boyfriend must possess.  When I read him the list, including such attributes as, "Must make me laugh", "Must be honest", "Must have Celiac, like me", and "Must live nearby", he good-naturedly suggested that no one is perfect and I may have to give a little leeway here or there.

That summer, I became very ill and was put on medical disability and bed-rest. James continued to check in on me daily, and our online chats turned into phone conversations because I was too weak to sit at the computer.

In August of 2010, at the height of my illness (I was diagnosed with Chronic Kidney Disease, hypertension, and thyroid disease) when I was frighteningly skinny and weak, and eight months after we had reconnected, he drove 3 hours from his home in a neighboring state to visit me.

My friend Leslie told me to wear my hair down for our “date”, but I insisted it wasn’t a “date”; besides, it was hot out, so I put my hair up.

We spent the day watching movies, me lying down, my legs over his lap. We never ran out of things to say. I felt extremely comfortable being near him, but I didn’t think I felt a love connection, which greatly disappointed me.  I'd become so fond of him and he'd become a wonderful friend, with a soul like no one I had met before.  I could tell he really liked me, but he was a perfect gentleman who made it clear that he was happy just to have reconnected with his old friend.

About 7 pm I unpinned my hair – one of my medications makes my scalp ache and I needed a bit of relief. As my very long hair came down, he smiled and said, “Look at your hair!” (Thanks, Leslie!) and in that moment something hit me, (perhaps Cupid’s Arrow, or hormones) and I kissed him.  I'm not sure who was more surprised at my behavior, but he certainly didn't protest.

One thing led to another...yada yada yada…and we’ve been inseparable since.  I'm convinced that his love and support literally helped saved my life and continues to help me negotiate my new "normal" with positivity and strength.  We recently celebrated our one-year anniversary and plan to marry.  I asked him when he knew for sure that he wanted to marry me and he replied, “25 years ago”.  It may have taken me a bit longer to figure it out, and he doesn't have Celiac, but oh how wonderful to realize that when my high school crush asked me out on April 28th, 1985, decades later we'd be blessed to end up together for good.

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Elizabeth said...

Beautiful story!

Can I make a suggestion about your page? The flashing Eiffel tower for blog loving is really distracting while trying to read the current post. Is there perhaps another blog loving button to choose from?

Adaptable Kay said...

Aw!! I have tears in my eyes-This is such a beautiful and heart-warming post!!

Matter Of Style said...

what a romantic story!
sometimes life can be more incredible than movies

Anonymous said...

BEAUTIFUL story! As a 30-something, it warms my heart to hear that sometimes love takes a while but it's timing is always perfect. Wishing you both the best!

Bonnie said...

That is such a sweet story!

Anonymous said...

by the way I agree with the comment about the flashing Eiffel Tower, very distracting and annoying! {as much as I love Paris!}

Hello. said...

Thank you so much, everyone! We appreciate it! And Ruche, my dears, thank you for posting our story! OXO

Angela [Simply Simple Me] said...

I am in love with this story.

Teaka said...

Such a beautiful story!

It's funny the lists we make in our quest for that "perfect" guy. So much of it is just silly, almost selfish things that strike off many possibly amazing guys from the list.

I loved reading your story!

Anonymous said...

Such a beautiful couple. Thank you for sharing your love story.